Success With Women

In order to go from meeting women online to actually meeting in person and having sex, you need to have certain social and conversational skills. Being confident and fun to be around will make you very attractive and sexy to most women, even if you are not the most physically attractive guy around. In fact, even men who thought they had no chance of having a good sex life because they were too fat, too skinny, too old, too broke, too bald, too hairy, too short, etc. have learned that they can attract women - very attractive women - quite easily by simply changing the way they think, speak, and act. Even if you are shy and awkward now, you can definitely learn how to interact with women in such a way that they will not only go out with you, but be more than willing to have sex with you.

There are several programs out there that promise to teach you how to have "success with women". At their core, they all teach pretty much the same thing: confidence combined with a sense of humor and assertiveness will create a strong attraction for you in most women. It may take some time and practice to make the necessary changes for you to be successful with women, and you must be willing to try some things that might initially seem to be the opposite of what you should do. But I can tell you from personal experience that if you learn these techniques and apply them, you'll never have problems getting dates or getting laid ever again. Dating success can be yours!

I'm going to give you some basics here, but to really get good at this, most guys will need some in-depth instruction. For that purpose, I'm going to suggest a website to you:

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Allow me to give you some basic tips on how to interact with women on dates and in sexual situations, and when you are ready for more information, check out the site I've just recommended. Dating success

As I said before, confidence combined with a sense of humor and assertiveness will generate attraction in most women.

Let's start with confidence. If you are convinced for whatever reason that no woman will ever want to have sex with you, you are probably right. But it's your lack of confidence that's killing your sex life more than any other self-perceived shortcoming you think you have. If you aren't confident that women will want to have sex with you, pretend that you are. Pretend confidence is not as good as real confidence, but if you pretend well enough, you'll start to have experiences that generate real confidence.

So, how do you pretend to be confident? One suggestion I have is to think about the things you are good at, things you are confident about. Notice how you feel when you are confident about something. Notice how you are holding yourself - your posture, notice how you are breathing, notice how you are holding your face - your facial expression, and just generally notice how you are physically when you are confident. To begin to pretend you are confident, simply re-create the posture, breathing, facial expression, etc. that you have when you are confident.

If you have difficulty thinking of what it's like when you are confident, try pretending you are someone you can think of who comes across as confident. Let's use the example of the fictitious character James Bond. I you haven't ever watched a James Bond movie, rent one and watch it (the best for this purpose are, in my opinion, the ones starring Sean Connery - in fact even at his advanced age today, Sean Connery is still considered to be very sexy to many women of all ages). James Bond seems pretty confident most of the time - particularly around women. Imagine yourself as James Bond. Stand the way you'd stand if you were James Bond, move the way he moves, speak the way he speaks (I don't mean with a British accent, but with the slow, calm, commanding quality he speaks with). If you act confident, you not only will appear to be confident, but you will actually begin to FEEL confident. Success with women

OK, enough about confidence, let's move on to sense of humor. Most women will rate a sense of humor very highly as something that they find attractive in a man. But there's an important distinction here. If you us a lot of self-deprecating humor (you make fun of yourself), this diminishes the level of attraction that humor can create. Self-deprecating humor suggests a lack of confidence, and although women will still like being around you, they will develop feelings more of liking you as a friend rather than of being sexually attracted to you. To build sexual attraction, you want to use humor that makes light of everything EXCEPT YOU! In fact, contrary to what a lot of guys think, making fun of your prospective date (when done in a teasing way) will actually enhance her attraction to you in most cases - as long as you don't get mean-spirited or veer off into racial issues, politics, and/or religion before you know much about someone. Dating Success

One way to naturally infuse the right kind of humor into your interactions with women is, as just mentioned, to tease them. If you treat a woman like your bratty little sister, or give them crap like you would your best buddy, your sense of humor will flow more naturally than if you treat her like a person you're nervous about impressing. Tease them about their hair, their clothes, whatever comes to mind. For example, one woman showed up for our first date wearing a tiara and holding a wedding guide book (she told me later that she did this to mess with guys' minds just to see how they'd react). I just completely ignored both items even though she was obviously trying to get me to notice them (she'd move the tiara around on her head, tap the wedding book with her fingers, etc.). Finally she couldn't stand it any longer and asked me why I hadn't said anything about her tiara. I told her I figured she just needed something to keep that hair of hers under control. She looked absolutely shocked and asked what was wrong with her hair. I just did my best "fake sincerity" voice and look and said "Oh, nothing, nothing at all." I paused for a moment and then leaned over and said "But it's probably why you're having such a hard time finding a husband!" When I leaned back, I gave her a wink and she just cracked up. Success with women

Most women will enjoy this sort of interaction a lot more than the standard awkward silences of most first dates. Remember, the women you meet will be nervous at first too. If you can introduce humor right from the start, it will break the tension and pave the way for attraction and sexual arousal. Dating success

For example, one woman I met for the first time was so nerous that before we even really introduced ourselves she blurted out that she never has sex on the first date. I just smiled and said, "OK, so if I leave now and come back in a minute, that would technically be our second date..." She looked at me, trying to figure out if I was being serious, and I just arched my eyebrow and nodded my head. In a moment, she burst out laughing - the tension was broken and the date progressed from there. Just in case you were wondering, we did not have actual intercourse on that first date - but she did get completely naked and we did just about everything except intercourse. As for the second date... well let's just say it wasn't the first date anymore. Success with women

The third component to creating attraction is assertiveness. Women typically get turned off by men who leave everything up to them. For instance, if you're planning a date and she asks where you want to meet, and you say "I don't know, where do you want to meet?", you've probably lost points. The rule of thumb here is to be firm but flexible. If you are planning a date, confidently propose a place to meet, what you're going to do, etc.. If the woman doesn't like your plan, she'll tell you. If she tells you she doesn't want to do what you suggested and doesn't offer an alternative, you need to suggest an alternate plan - again with confidence.

Now, a few women will shoot down every plan you come up with and still refuse to suggest a plan of their own. Usually they are doing this to see how you'll react and how much crap you'll put up with from them. When this happens, I suggest saying something along the lines of, "Well, you don't seem to want to do anything I've suggested and you can't seem to come up with anything of your own, so what I'm going to do is [insert whatever plan you prefer here], and if you want to come along, that's fine. If not, maybe I'll try to set something up with you another time." In a lot of cases, the woman will choose to go along with your plan at this point. If so, chances are she was never actually opposed to any of your plans in the first place, she was just testing you. Success with women

Now, I'm not saying you should be a controlling jerk. If you're making plans with a woman and she suggests something to do, there's nothing wrong with going along with her plan (as long as it's not something you'd prefer to stick hot pokers in your eyes than do). I'm just saying that you need to be able to come up with a plan instead of falling back on "I don't know, what do you want to do?", hoping you won't displease your prospective date by suggesting something she doesn't like. While women are very much in leadership positions in the workplace and society in general, most actually like men who can and will take the lead - so do it.

So there you have the basics of how to interact with women in order to create sexual attraction. Confidence, sense of humor, and assertiveness will give you an image of a strong, interesting, and sexy man that most women will find very attractive. To learn more about how to develop this type of persona, I recommend you go to ArtofApproaching.com. Dating Success

One last word on this subject. Some guys don't make the effort to change how they interact with women because they don't feel "natural" dong it. They want to just "be themselves" and have women be attracted to the "real" them. I used to be very awkward with women myself and just lived my life hoping to find someone who would be attracted to me just the way I was. But after learning a different way to interact with women, I realized that doing things this new way was "the real me", it was just a part of me I had never learned how to express. Now when I interact in a sexual way with women, I AM confident, I AM funny (in a way that women find attractive), and I AM assertive. It IS "the real me".

Think about it this way, before you try something, you might not think "it's you", but after you try it, you may discover you like it and it becomes "you". This can be true for learning to change how you interact with women, learning about some new sport you've never tried, learning to like some new type of music, whatever. We are not the same person throughout our lifetimes, we change. So, if you want to change your sex life for the better, you might want to consider changing the "you" that interacts with women. Success with women

Good luck for dating success!